Shakira Sison

Life, Friendship, Family

Learn to see betrayal as a blessing. It keeps you from wasting any more time.

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Sometimes the first boundary you have to establish isn’t against other people. Oftentimes we first have to create boundaries against how we limit, sabotage, and enslave ourselves. Resignation to misery is an example. We have to fight our own urge to destroy ourselves.

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Anger and righteousness are the best way people hide their lies, but they’re also the best way we hide the truth about ourselves.

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You will regret the things you didn’t do out of fear of failure much more than the things you did do and failed.

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You can’t tell your parents to treat you like an adult when you are dependent on them for everything. If you continue to live under their roof, use their resources, take money from them, and seek their help for everything, you are acting like a child and will always be treated like one.

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In most personal crises: Always look inward before outward. Flex your muscles and assess your own hurts before exposing your claws.

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Parents devote their lives to their children, as they should since they made them. Children should not be expected to devote their lives in return. They did not choose to be born.

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Without accountability you cannot break free from your destructive cycles. You cannot make changes to yourself as a partner, family member or coworker. If the only cause and effect you understand is other people hurting you, you will keep finding yourself in bad situations.

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Learn as many skills and trades you can. It makes you more interesting and you meet great people and collect good stories along the way.

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You don’t find more time to do things you like as you get older. You just stop doing things you don’t like, thus freeing up your time.

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Learn to love your own company above all and you’ll find that you’re actually glad when people cancel, reschedule, or bow out of your life.

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Adult dependence stunts you as well as your parents. You can’t develop real responsibilities and your parents can’t enjoy their own lives.

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Watch the stones people throw and you can see where they are weak. You only try to hurt others the way others have hurt you.

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Define your principles, limits, and boundaries. That way your decisions don’t depend on anyone’s approval and you can stand on your own.

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Doing things to be liked is setting yourself up for disappointment. Do things to like yourself works better, and people will follow suit.

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Get into situations where you are part of a racial/religious/cultural minority. It will teach you about yourself and abt respecting others.

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The best way to thank your parents is to show them that their hard work in raising you resulted in your success as an independent adult.

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Get to know the strange ones. They have been able to stand on their own weirdness and resisted conformity. They don’t rely on your approval.

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Happiness will find you, but it has to find you believing in yourself. It may take a peek and stay for a bit, but if it sees that you feel worthless and undeserving of love and happiness, it will skip you. Happiness doesn’t want to stay where it doesn’t feel deserved.

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Respect your parents but don’t let them rule you. No creature in the animal kingdom follows all their parents’ wishes in their adult lives.

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Find happiness outside parenthood and your child’s love. Your child cannot seek his own happiness if he feels it’s at the expense of yours.

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Parents who treat parenthood as a debt to be paid sacrificed their happiness to raise children and want them to sacrifice theirs in return. If this sounds unfair to you, plan your family and save for your retirement. Expect nothing from your children other than they find their happiness. Believe it or not, if you did right by your children, they will take care of you. If you obligate them, they will resent taking care of you.

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Wounds do heal, but you have to leave them alone. Stop picking at the scab and checking for blood. The more you mess with it, the more it will get dirty and infected. Leave it to mend, even if it might scar. It will be stronger than before it was cut.

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You may regret the things you didn’t say, but in the end you can still say them. You can’t take back things you said without thinking.

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Experiencing a devastating loss puts you in a category of fearlessness many don’t ever reach. You have been broken by grief and realized you can survive it. Now you know the depths of loss and how to avoid it, but also that when it is beyond your control, you’ll get past it.

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You will always have a reaction, but it doesn’t have to be the same as your response. If you are angry, feel overwhelmed by emotion, or you’re simply unsure, delay the response. Silence often says all you need to say, and it always allows you to say something sensible in the end.

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Be grateful for the kindness of others, but do not rely on it or expect it as a blanket rule. Virtues change as motives and people do . Count on yourself as much as you can and be glad for unexpected gestures, but don’t expect outside help as a first-line solution to anything.

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After being through the toughest times, you get to believe nothing more can destroy you. And even if something does, you’ll recover. That’s the blessing of extreme sadness. Everything else becomes happiness by default.

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